This page provides a nice overview of the basic tenets of Dr. Greene's approach...so you know what you've gotten yourself into.
Dr. Greene's model -- originally called Collaborative Problem Solving -- provides a compassionate, accurate understanding of kids' behavioral challenges and a non-adversarial, effective approach for reducing challenging behavior, improving communication, and repairing relationships. The model was first described in Dr. Greene's book, The Explosive Child, which was originally published in 1998 and is now in its fourth edition (2010). The approach sets forth two major tenets. First, challenging behavior in kids is best understood as the byproduct of lagging cognitive skills (rather than as the byproduct of passive, permissive, inconsistent, noncontingent parenting). And second, these challenges are best addressed by resolving the problems that are setting the stage for challenging behavior in a collaborative manner (rather than through imposition of adult will and intensive use of reward and punishment procedures). Here are some of the important questions answered by the model:
Why are challenging kids challenging?
Because they're lacking the skills not to be challenging. If they had the skills, they wouldn't be challenging. That's because – and here is perhaps the key theme of the model – Kids do well if they can. And because (here's another key theme) Doing well is always preferable to not doing well (but only if a kid has the skills to do well in the first place). This, of course, is a dramatic departure from the view of challenging kids as attention-seeking, manipulative, coercive, limit-testing, and poorly motivated. It's a completely different set of lenses, supported by research in the neurosciences over the past 30-40 years, and it has dramatic implications for how caregivers go about helping such kids.
When are challenging kids challenging?
When the demands or expectations being placed upon them exceed the skills that they have to respond adaptively. Of course, that's when everyone looks bad: when they're lacking the skills to look good. For example, if a particular homework assignment demands skills that a kid is lacking, then that homework assignment is likely to set in motion challenging behavior. If participating appropriately in circle time at school demands skills that a kid is lacking, then the likelihood of challenging behavior is heightened when the kid is supposed to be sitting in circle time. Naturally, if the kid could complete the homework assignment and participate in circle time appropriately, he would complete the homework assignment and sit in circle time appropriately. Thus, an important goal is to identify the skills a challenging kid is lacking. An even more important goal is to identify the specific conditions or situations in which a challenging behavior is occurring in a particular challenging kid. In Dr. Greene's model, these conditions are referred to as unsolved problems and they tend to be highly predictable. Identifying lagging skills and unsolved problems is accomplished through use of an instrument called the Assessment of Lagging Skills and Unsolved Problems (ALSUP). You can find the ALSUP in the Paperwork section of this website.
What behaviors do challenging kids exhibit when they don't have the skills to respond adaptively to certain demands?
Challenging kids let us know they're struggling to meet demands and expectations in some fairly common ways: whining, pouting, sulking, withdrawing, crying, screaming, swearing, hitting, spitting, kicking, throwing, breaking, lying, stealing, and so forth. But what a kid does when he's having trouble meeting demands and expectations isn't the most important part (though it may feel that way)…why and when s/he's doing these things are much more important.
What should we be doing differently to help these kids better than we're helping them now?
If challenging behavior is set in motion by lagging skills and not lagging motivation, then it's easy to understand why rewarding and punishing a kid may not make things better. Since challenging behavior occurs in response to highly predictable unsolved problems, then challenging kids – and the rest of us – would probably be a whole lot better off if we tried to solve those problems. But if we solve them unilaterally, through imposition of adult will (something referred to as Plan A), then we'll only increase the likelihood of challenging episodes and we won't solve any problems durably. Better to solve those problems collaboratively (Plan B) so the kid is a fully invested in solving the problems, solutions are more durable, and (over time) the kid -- and often the adults as well -- learn the skills they were lacking all along. Plan B involves three basic ingredients. The first ingredient – called the Empathy step – involves gathering information so as to achieve the clearest understanding of the kid's concern or perspective about a given unsolved problem. The second ingredient (called the Define the Problem step) involves entering the adult concern or perspective on the same unsolved problem into consideration. The third ingredient (called the Invitation step) involves having the adult and kid brainstorm solutions so as to arrive at a plan of action that is both realistic and mutually satisfactory…in other words, a solution that addresses both concerns and that both parties can actually do.
Where has the model been applied?
In countless families, schools, inpatient psychiatry units, group homes, residential facilities, and juvenile detention facilities, the model has been shown to be an effective way to reduce conflict and teach kids the skills they need to function adaptively in the real world.
Where can I learn more about Plan B and Dr. Greene's model?
The website of Dr. Greene's non-profit Lives in the Balance is a very good place to start. It has a ton of free resources to help you learn about and apply the model, including streaming video, a vast listening library, and lots more. Various books, CDs, and DVDs describing the model are available in the CPS Store. And, if you'd like to read what the American Academy of Pediatrics has to say about the model, CLICK HERE.
Is there a one-page description of the model that I can download?
Glad you asked! Just CLICK HERE to print it.